If your family is like ours, we fight the tension between being available to each other and also to friends, family and the world through streams of technology. Thankfully, our family has fairly simple rules and patterns about technology use and the importance to never give up ‘meeting face to face’ (as Scripture states) just because communication through technology would be easier.
One simple process we employ in our family is the ‘phone stack’. Our family loves to eat together. Of course, with busy schedules, we don’t have the luxury of many times during a week to sit around a meal together. Thus, the at least one time per week that we do share a meal together, we DO NOT want the outside world dictating the pace or focus of our fellowship.
But, there were so many times when we would sit down together and one phone or another would ring or buzz indicating someone or something was attempting to get our attention. That is when my wife, Pokey, came up with the phone stack. At the beginning of the meal, everyone places their phone or mobile device in the middle of the table on silent. We are not allowed to touch or peak until the meal is finished. At first, all of us had to ‘detox’ a bit from being able to just glance at who was sending us a message. Eventually, we were fine and did not notice at all.
The phone stack has made our family meals all the more special because it is a time when we can focus on each other and whomever else God has brought to our table. Sure, the phones are there and will be picked right back up when the meal is finished. But, for those few moments, we belong to each other. What a blessing!
We love you all.
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Mt. 5: 13-16
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Shane Stanford is a pastor, teacher and author committed to sharing the hope of Jesus Christ with the world.